This past semester I’ve been taking a Christian Relationships class. This class is a combination of three sections– psychology, theology, and communication, with a professor and their wife per section. The professors then integrate each section into the lectures to show how each are needed and used for healthy relationships. After the lecture, we split up into our perspective sections with our professor and discuss it in terms of our own subjects. As a Communication major, I am in the communication section of the class (surprise surprise).
For the past semester, we have been reading a book called Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. I just want to say that this is an awesome book. Even though I am single and do not see myself making a walk down the aisle any time soon, this book is a must read for the single, dating, engaged, or married individual or couple. While this book is about marriage, it is also not. This book is greatly about the love God has for His people and through understanding His love, then we are able to love our (future) spouse. Through the reading of this book, I’ve come to realize what love really is and what true love is to look like. For our class, we had the assignment in which we had to record several quotes per each chapter that stuck out to us. I just want to share a few of my favorite quotes from this book:
“Because of this, both of us can find even more meaning by pursuing God together and by recognizing that he is the one who alone can full the spiritual ache in our souls” (pg. 14)
“God wants us to relate to him with the obedience fueled by love and intimacy, not by self-motivated fear, and with a loyalty to a divine-human relationship not a blind adherence to ‘principles. A husband harbors a passion toward his wife that is absent in a master toward his slave’” (pg. 28-29)
“God delights in us. We make his supernatural heart skip a beat” (pg. 29)
“We have to realize that human love and divine love aren’t two separate oceans but rather one body of water with many tributaries” (pg. 40)
“As moral entities, men and women are equal before God. This truth doesn’t mean that they are synonymous, or that their roles will be or should be the same. But it does mean, as Scripture teaches, that both male and female are made in the image of God” (pg. 62)
“A magnificent marriage begins not with knowing one another but with knowing God” (pg. 73) My favorite quote from the whole book.
“Godliness is selflessness, and when a man and woman marry, they are pledging to stop viewing themselves as individuals and start viewing themselves as a unit, as a couple” (pg. 77)
“To do this, we must not enter marriage predominately to be fulfilled, emotionally satisfied, or romantically charged, but rather to become more like Jesus Christ. We must embrace the reality of having our flaws exposed to our partner, and thereby having them exposed to us as well” (pg. 96)
“May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance” 2 Thessalonians 3:5
“Marriage helps us to develop the character of God himself as we stick with our spouses through the good times and the bad. Every wedding gives birth to a new history, a new beginning. The spiritual meaning of marriage is found in maintaining that history together” (pg. 107)
“The righteousness God seeks is a persistent righteousness, a commitment to continue making the right decision even when, perhaps hourly, you feel pulled in the opposite direction. Holiness is far more than an inclination toward occasional acts of kindness and charity. It is a commitment to persistent surrender before God” (pg. 108)
“He willingly and lovingly took Peter back after Peter had disowned Him” (pg. 114)
“Don’t run from the struggles of marriage. Embrace the. Grow in them. Draw nearer to God because of them. Through them you will reflect more of the spirit of Jesus Christ” (pg. 133-134)
“The opposite of biblical love isn’t hate, it’s apathy” (pg. 155)
“God is always worthy of being obeyed and served, so when I act out of obedience to hum, the person who receives my service doesn’t have to be deserving—they’re benefitting from what I owe God” (pg. 188)
“There is true joy when true service is offered up with a true heart” (pg. 191)
“When we have power over another and we use that power responsibly, appropriately, and benevolently, we grow in Christ, we become more like God, and we reflect the fact that we were made to love God by serving others” (pg. 195)
“Creating a family is the closest we get to sharing the image of God. Seeing this child, made partially in your image, is almost too frighteningly comparable o us being made in God’s image” (pg. 241)
These are just a few of my favorite quotes that I have been able to pick out. If you have a change, I encourage you to give it a read. In it, you may learn that marriage is each individual first understanding the love of God so that the husband may know how to selflessly love his wife and the wife may know how to selflessly love her husband.